I turned 46 this year. If I could send a letter back in time to a younger me, this is what I’d write:
You’re about to turn 30. Strap yourself up in your seat belt because it’s about to get really tough.
You’ve already started to see glimpses of how difficult things are going to get.
The unhappiness. The general feeling of discontent. The loneliness. Feeling lost about almost everything.
All that gets worse. Much much worse.
Prepare yourself for a long period of darkness. You will feel like you are drowning. Every now and then you’ll find a straw, you will grab onto it thinking it will pull you back to the surface only to discover it’s a thorn. You will be pricked, you will have to let go of the thorn, and you will sink ever deeper.
Things will get so bad at one point that, for the first and only time in your life, you will briefly consider ending it. Breathe. Let the moment pass. It will.
You will call out for help. You will explain, using all the words you can find, what ails you. You will be clear that you need professional help. The people who matter, who can help, will hear you. But they will not be listening.
You will look around you and not know whom to trust. You will have many people around you, but you will feel as if you are alone in a stark, empty desert. (more…)