But the seconds or minutes of glory that we sometimes get make all the other times bearable or even worthwhile.
Promise me you’ll do yourself a favor: Choose something that you feel is really important to accomplish. See it through to the very end no matter how hard it is. Revel in the glory of your accomplishment. Then remember that feeling when the hard times hit. You won’t regret it. I promise.
You don’t have to get gold in the Olympics or produce a number one hit single to feel the glory, by the way. Little things work too.
Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn to make a two-tiered cake. Do it. And revel in the glory your kids will give you.
Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn a language. Or get a degree in something. Or start a small business of your own.
Maybe you simply want to get fit and never thought for a second that you’d be able to run a whole ten kilometers. (more…)
Over the years and indeed recently as well, I’ve come across people who have directly or indirectly expressed a need to dissociate themselves almost completely from their pasts. These are people who have gone through what are sometimes extremely difficult circumstances at some point in their lives. Deaths, divorces, abuse, abductions…the list goes on. We all deal with adversity differently. So many people I know deal with it by suppressing it; pretending it doesn’t exist. Or they acknowledge it but do not want to be defined by it. And to avoid being defined by it, they separate themselves from anyone who knows anything about it. In the process, new lives are created and so many friends and family from the past become all but non-existent.
Although I’ve attempted, quite sincerely, to show empathy to this state of dissociation from one’s past, I’ve always found it difficult to comprehend. I’ve gone through some difficult times in my life. (more…)