The Right to Question Faith – Any Faith

On April 26, I published a blog post titled “Time for a confession: I wore the face veil for eight years”. Among the 1,845 words in the article, there are the following ten words: “I even have my own questions about the head scarf.”

In response to those ten words, several people asked me on the blog and on my Facebook page what I meant by that exactly. I even got a rather nasty comment that I refused to publish that included among other things something to the effect of “people are saying that you are planning on taking off your hijab.”

Let me set one thing straight: I have absolutely no plans to take off the hijab (the head scarf).

This does not mean that I do not have the right to question it, though. And what happens if I question it and come to the conclusion that I feel a need to remove it for any reason? Is that not my right as well? Does that turn me into a kafir (non-believer) or a loose woman, as some people would seem to imply?

It perturbs me very deeply that many Muslims believe it is the obligation of non-Muslims to study religions, question their own upbringing and faith, and as a result of continuous observation and research come to the conclusion that Islam is the one true religion. Many Muslims believe this but do not give Muslims this same right. Allow me to emphasize that it is Muslims who do this and not Islam. Islam is a religion, according to my understanding, that highly encourages questioning and reasoning.

So people, no apologies from me, I allow myself to question my own practices and my own faith just as I allow myself to question others’. I believe that this only strengthens faith, rather than weakens it.

So what are my questions about hijab?

When I question, I like to remove myself from the frequently repeated concept of: God ordered us to do such and such, that’s why. If I applied that concept to everything in my head, I’d close the door to questions. And I do not believe that is what God wants me to do. I believe God gave us brains to use them.

My questions are very simple and practical questions based on observation. The main argument used by Muslims when defending the hijab is that it protects the woman from being looked at as a sex symbol. I understand that and have repeated this many times myself.

But there are other arguments as well that need to be considered. One argument is that wearing the hijab actually turns a woman into more of a sex symbol than removing it does; that simply because she is a sex symbol in the eyes of man that she is told she must cover up in order not to arouse them.

There are people who argue that men living in closed societies where women are completely covered up are aroused by the smallest of things, perhaps even seeing the beautiful eyes of a woman, whereas men living in more open societies are less aroused over seeing something like a woman’s arms or hair.

Please note, before I go any further, that I am NOT talking about or defending women who intentionally dress (or undress) in order to arouse men. I am not talking about women who sway and swing in video clips with the least amount of clothing on possible.

When I talk about women not wearing the hijab, I mean the average Western woman who leaves the house in decent clothing, sometimes even shorts and a sleeveless t-shirt, same as men do, but with no intention at all of wreaking havoc in men’s hearts.

Something I have noticed is that people’s perceptions of each other are cultural. I’ve watched women in the West walking down the street dressed in a business suit, for example, with their hair done nicely, and no one even noticing them. Earlier this week while I was in Italy on a business trip, I attended a church service out of curiosity. Men and women were sitting side by side during the service and not one of them seemed to be having thoughts of pouncing on the woman sitting next to them (of course I don’t read minds, but I’d assume a man having such thoughts would at least be a bit fidgety). I’ve asked many an Arab man if, when he travels to the West and sees women’s hair, he has problems controlling his sexual urges and thoughts. They’ve all told me – and I’m just going to have to trust them on this – that seeing women’s hair in the West does not arouse them.

Of course there is the occasional sick man who cannot control himself and goes around harassing women and sometimes raping them. I would like to assume, and I hope you assume this with me, that this kind of man is the exception and that this kind of man is mentally ill. This kind of man will attack any kind of woman; fully covered or not. We have many rapists in the Islamic world who have raped women wearing the face veil, wearing the hijab, or covered up very respectably. When a man rapes a woman, the blame is to be placed on the man who rapes the woman, and not on the woman who is being raped, NO MATTER what she might be wearing. A normal, healthy man can control an urge to pounce on a woman who passes him by on the street.

I’m also disturbed by the many claims I’ve heard from Arab men that “it’s different for men than it is for women” in response to the question: why don’t men have to cover up as well? Who says that a man’s body is not as attractive in a woman’s eye as a woman’s body is in men’s eyes? Who says that women do not have sexual urges that they too need to control? Why is it that it’s the women that need to fully cover up to protect men’s sexual urges but the opposite is not true?

These are some of the questions in my head. I’m certain there must be answers and I’ll wait for you all to give them to me – which I know you will.

But the fact that I question does NOT make me a bad person! The fact that I question means I give myself the right to understand and then to believe rather than to simply have weak faith.

So no, I’m NOT taking off my hijab. But yes, I DO have the right to question it.

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15 comments

  1. i am really glad that you opened debate in such issue, i share with the same concerns . as i consider my self a Muslim not because i was born a Muslim, but because i tried to know more about my faith
    i claim my right to question my faith, something like Hijab was one of my questions and also the prohibition of rituals in menstruation as well, i believe that Islam is just religion and it is not misogynist or tend to oppress women
    but why women are obliged to show their piety and modesty in a clear tangible matter, that restrict their dress code while men are just asked to lower their gaze and there no clear dress code for men other than hiding
    the Awra part
    personally i tried to show my questioning idea by trying to tell the ppl i live with that i will take off my veil, in moment i felt that this piece of garment will not judge whether or not i will be considered a pious Muslim, i came across many explanation to veil verses from islamic feminists who claim that it is cultural thing more than religious and it aimed to secure the women in the vulnerable muslim community in the era of Prophet PBUH
    i think you should not bother by ppl asking u whether you will take ur veil off or not it is a relation between u and Allah
    and society should not intervene in such relation
    sister calim your right to validate and question your face, it is you and your heart who will lead you not the screams of others who judge us

    again thanks for raising such issue
    fatma

  2. Dear Sister,

    To begin with, may Allah guide you, me and every Muslim to the right path and help us stick to it.

    I agree with you that we need to pose questions about the “well-known” laws of Islam, however, I do not think that we are supposed to question them! Yes we can ask in order to understand the wisdom behind the laws, but we are not supposed to question in order to reach a conclusion.

    This is because questioning (rather than asking questions) contradicts with the basic idea of Islam (total submission to Allah). Asking questions to understand is, on the other hand, the heart of Islam which asks to understand and not to live blindly.

    We should spend enough time thinking and researching about the true religion. Once we reach a conclusion, this conclusion must be concrete and unshakable, and if we adopt Islam as a religion then this should mean that we totally believe that it is THE religion that we are supposed to follow and that it is THE religion from God.

    Reaching such a conclusion directly implies that one should accept what is in Islam even if he did not fully understand why he is asked to do it. This does not mean of course that he is not supposed to understand why he is asked to do it. These are two distinct things that we should keep apart.

    We are like children told by their parents not to smoke. We should obey our parents because they know better, even if we did not understand why we are not supposed to smoke. Of course, if we know, then we will be better children and we will be able to obey our parents better and be more immune against smoking.

    The verdict is: If we believe that Allah knows better, then we should ask questions to understand the wisdom behind what he says. If we understand, this is excellent and if we do not then this is due to our lack of mental abilitiy and knowledge. If we are not sure if what Allah says is right, then maybe we have the right to question what he says.

    Therefore, I think that if we question Hijab, then we should question Islam too.

    I wish you all the best.

  3. I think the response from Ibrahim shows the problems that arise when you combine questioning with religious proscriptions and dictates.

    Basically, religious proscriptions and dictates cloud the mind. They prevent a serious and consistent attention to the actual conditions of the world, because they interrupt that attention with their own views. That is why they lead to rigidity and failure to adapt. I think this is linked to the widespread economic stagnation in Islamic countries.

    In my view, there is a wide spread sexual hysteria among men in countries which practice Islamic seclusion and veiling. These practices create erotically exciting taboos and create frustration, and they also lead to a lack of skills and comfort in dealing with the opposite sex (for both sexes). Sexuality is channeled in some negative directions: harassment, for example. In fact, there are even situations where people who would normally be completely heterosexual engage in homosexual behaviors. In this respect, sex segregation and veiling produce an environment that has parallels to a single sex prison.

    But if your observations of reality are constantly interrupted by religious proscriptions and dictates, you can’t even observe these problems, let alone solve them.

    I am unsympathetic to veiling overall (obviously). But I do see some merit in the critique of objectification of the body which Islamic feminists (and other feminists) raise. I think veiling is not a useful solution, however. It is a distraction. It is literally covering and not addressing the problem.

  4. No philosophy allowed when I ask this question about the head scarf, no reason, no explanation, nothing. !! To me it is purely a feeling matter. When I wore the hijab after I came back from pilgrimage in 1996, I was a fresh Haja and the trend was to become mohajaba as such. After a few months I discovered that I am wearing the hijab for the people perception of me, not of God’s. The hijab started to bug me and made me feel like a hypocrite, I detested it but kept it on for a few years during which I gradually felt like I was losing my identity and becoming someone else that I myself did not like. One day, my little daughter had a friend over and at the end of her visit, her dad came to pick her up, I ran to my room to get my head covered before I opened the door for him, he was a foreigner – by the way. That day I felt really bad and I questioned myself how can i treat this man who means absolutely nothing the same way I treat my God when I pray in from of HIM. Who is that creature that should be in the remotest manner be compared to my God. When I pray I get totally covered by an isdal that covers me from head to toe and I do not feel any problem with that, on the contrary, I cannot pray otherwise. But to get so covered up in front of a fellow human being is something I could not swallow. I removed the head scarf and have suddenly found out that I got the real me once again, the girl who was dying to go on a pilgrimage and who cannot miss a prayer. Islam has way more depth than a facade and as a moslem I choose to be an ambassador for it by my behavior and the way I treat other people, rather by the way I dress.

  5. I think this is an excellent post!

    as a muhajiba – i think we need to constantly question WHY we are wearing a headscarf – is it serving its purpose – or the opposite…

    we need to look at its relevance in contemporary society as well – compared to the society it was revealed in. we should also be willing to fight for the women who are forced to don hijab/niqab/burqa etc etc – and we should fight for those who are banned from practicing their interpretation of covering.

    and also – we need to question our own intentions.

    excellent post.

  6. My sister announced to my family last month that she had no religion. My father was extremely upset; my mom didn’t know what to do.

    I, on the other hand, was sad that my sister no longer believed in God. I was fine with her choosing ANOTHER religion, a different way of appreciating God. But here she is now–an atheist.

    I overheard a recent conversation she had with my father about her religious views. She challenged him? ‘Why can’t people be free to choose? Why must I be what my parents were’

    I can’t blame her although I don’t agree with her POV, I can understand that she has her own journey, her own path.

    My parents don’t understand. It’s easier to dismiss her, disown their own flesh and blood.

    **

    i didn’t grow up in a religious family. Although I was raised in a Middle Eastern home (in Egypt for a big chunk of my life), I wasn’t exposed to religion much.

    Everything I know about Islam today is self-taught. I chose my own journey and followed it through. My parents allowed me to grow like that; but it bothers me that they aren’t providing my sister the same opportunity!

    I believe that our nature leads us to God. I believe one day–inshAllah–she will find Him again. Silly her doesn’t realize He’s always there with her–even when she works so hard to push Him out.

    **

    Recently on my blog I posted a humorous picture of something I found in the mosque’s women’s section. One of my readers was upset that I ‘aired’ our dirty laundry and I’ve ashamed all Muslims with my mockery. But shouldn’t we continue to evaluate and value our actions that we invest so much time on?

  7. Asalaamu Aleikum,

    Wearing the hijab is really hard. I also question the benefits of it because the benefits proposed to me in Islamic literature to me ring hollow. I have lived in the Middle East for 8 years and I know through extensive personal experience that being covered DOES NOT protect a woman from anything. However, in my experience in non-Muslim countries with hijab, it does make non-Muslim men much, much less likely to sexually harass you because they don’t know what to make of you.

    I have read also that in the early days of Islam, slave women were not permitted to wear hijab, and hijab was a status marker for free women…so that men would not harass them…I guess that slave women were fair game? That all just sounds…wrong.

    I do keep on my hijab and I like the level of personal modesty that it gives me. I also like that it sets me apart as a Muslim (although in these trying times post 9/11 that is a huge burden as well). But I don’t think the sight of my arms or hair is immodest, it is just *extra* modest to have the body covered. And God loves modesty, right?

    I think we should keep on questioning things. I agree with Safiyya’s statements:

    “we need to look at its relevance in contemporary society as well – compared to the society it was revealed in. we should also be willing to fight for the women who are forced to don hijab/niqab/burqa etc etc – and we should fight for those who are banned from practicing their interpretation of covering.

    and also – we need to question our own intentions.”

  8. @Dina
    as a non-believer (I consider myself agnostic rather than atheist because I am unable to say), I guess you’re much more in touch with your god than most of those who just conform to “the rules” (which are basically societal pressures, most of the time).

    @Organica
    I think that your feeling is common (whatever god is better than no god) but there’s no reason to believe that the values of someone calling herself/himself atheist or agnostic are so different from the best positive values of most religions.
    One of the points is that when you don’t have a religion you have to find your own way, and have to find the good of the existence in other human beings.
    And you can and must judge them for what they are and they do, not for the dress code they adopt or the role they have in a religious hyerarchy.
    The idea that if you don’t have a god you don’t have moral and an ethic guidance is one of the biggest lies spread by religions (to discredit the competition).

    On the other hand, saying that you believe “in God” doesn’t say much about how wise and good you are in the eyes of others,

    There’s a (controversial) movie that I adored, by American comedian Bill Maher that shows in a funny way the ridiculous part of a lot of religions.
    Here’s the trailer (he even found and interviewed on camera two “gay Muslim activists”) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6iUyAppOOU0

    BTW, in the movie Maher also discusses with his family (Catholic – Jewish) about religion.

    Talk about questioning faith…

  9. Asalamu alaykom,

    1st of all we must not forget that the person’s right to do whatever he wants means one should be responsible for whatever he did before, which means one should bear all the consequences that will result from getting away from their old choices. Based on this, if a person who used to believe hijab is wajib and then changed his view to something else he has denied something necessarily known from religion.

    Islam encourages questioning and reasoning, true.. but, doubt is a luxury a believer can’t afford. The main purpose of questioning and reasoning in Islam is not to have a doubt (which is her case now) but to have stronger faith and better ability to refute non Muslims. You claimed this strengtheners your faith but what comes before and after shows otherwise.

    The main argument made for hijab is described in Quran (An-Nur 31), we are ordered to lower our gaze (men and women) and to keep our modesty. No one will ever lower their gaze 100% all the time, so what shall be the solution? Keep the body well covered to protect us from the non-decent looks? Or keep it shown to increase the risk? In case I am covered and another person kept looking I will not be sinned, only he will be sinned. But, if I am not well covered and s/he looks then both of us have sinned. The whole idea is to protect us from the 1st step toward zina which is the indecent look. It seems your practical questions were based on observing what people say not what Quran says! Quran never mentioned that the purpose of hijab is preventing women from being considered as a sex symbol! Quran never said women are sex symbol in the eyes of the man!

    Based on what is mentioned in the previous paragraph, the argument of closed/opened societies is invalid. It is not about being in closed or opened society. As long as there is a possibility for an indecent look from anyone around we must cover our bodies the way prescribed by our faith.

    For the women who go out not intending to wreak havoc in men’s heart this is answered from two sides. One: the intention doesn’t necessarily remain the same. Two: the good intention doesn’t change the bad action. This needs further explanation. When we pray, we start our prayers with the intention of seeking God’s satisfaction, then while praying our intention might switch to showing the people I am a religious person, so nothing guarantees that the human’s intentions remain good all the time. Also, if someone harms us saying my intention was good, this doesn’t change the fact that he caused harm and that he is responsible to fix it, same applies on the person who dresses improperly and not willing to catch attention.

    Personal observations are not the ultimate truth. You based your perception on a personal observation that in the west ladies in suits don’t get noticed. I lived in the west, asked Arab men in the west and I have seen different experiences than yours, so if each of us will base his questions on the perceptions he got from a one personal observation, life will end with each of us holding a different faith.

    You admitted that, of course, there are occasional sick men. The fact that they exist means that the orders of covering our bodies are necessary. We don’t want the mentally ill person to have more lust which certainly comes when he sees more. Confirming that he will attack any woman without any evidences or studies is something to be doubted, we need to see the indicators and the studies, I believe it will show that covered women got less sexually harassed or raped .

    Men have to cover up; the point is the way they cover is different from the way women cover up. He who denies that men’s bodies are not attractive for women is wrong. He who says women don’t have sexual urges that they need to control is wrong. Women need to cover up more than men (not fully). Why is that? Because women’s bodies are more attractive than men’s bodies; a fact that I believe no one denies. Also, it is proved scientifically that men mostly pick women based on their beauty. But, women mostly pick men based on their brains and way of thinking. This shows the wisdom behind this matter.

    Finally, it was narrated that the Prophet hated asking too many questions (Bukhari and Muslim). One should be moderate in questioning anything, including faith :)

  10. Mohamed,

    I think your argument is flawed.

    Women ARE attracted to men–in a very lustful way too! See, sexuality–in my opinion–is socially formed. In the Western world, women DO judge and select men based on their ‘looks’ and other social ques such as ‘hottness’ rates, etc. Sure their brains are important, but the Western world had become a ‘hook-up’ culture. It’s all about sex first and relationship later.

    When I grew up in the ME, I never viewed men ‘sexually.’ The most extent I would view men as a pretty face, etc. However, when I moved to the U.S., my viewpoint was shaped into viewing men differently, more sexually. The hottness effect went beyond a pretty face, the body was INCLUDED in these ratings.

    What I don’t get about double standards is the so called ‘Islamic’ dress code. Why are men allowed to walk around in tight muscle shirts and shorts all day long and still be considered ‘religious?’

    A few years ago I found pictures of some of my Muslim classmates at the beach: The guys went topless showing off their six-packs while the hijabi women rolled up parts of their sleeves and fanned themselves. If you’ve ever been to a Gulf country, it’s not strange to see women draped in black niqab/abaya while the hubby swims in his trunks!

    Why? I am attracted to men’s biceps. If he uncovers them and extenuates them with tight clothing, I WILL LOOK. And you made your argument that “if there is a chance they will look, THEN COVER” I have this argument over and over. At Jummah, when men sit down, I can see their boxer shorts. In some instances, I’ve seen skin! My question is? Why can’t they invest in longer shirts that cover those bums better? OH WAIT, will that be less fashionable?

    WHO CARES. I compromise my fashion to dress modestly, he can do the same. He can dress in a shirt larger than his actual size, longer with less skin showing. I am sick of seeing boxers of Muslim brothers!

    But in most cases from the male point of view, a woman should lower her gaze because it’s not part of the Islamic dress code for men to cover their sexy biceps and other parts of their body. The navel to knee business is the only proof..and as a matter of fact, some ahadeeth claim that men don’t even have to cover that part. Privates are ENOUGH. So Sisters? Please restrain yourselves because the brothers don’t have to do anything else.

    So ya. Double standards? OF COURSE.

    Anyone who has been in the religious cycle would tell you a million and times over. “Men are attracted to women a lot more than women being attracted to men” “Women will go to heaven for covering every inch of their body–INCLUDING Covering the arms but men can’t do the same. Just can’t”

    It’s different for men.

    At a recent event where I was the guest speaker, a contributing brother said he ‘lost’ it when he saw a woman’s neck. He couldn’t handle himself sexually. You can imagine how uncomfortable the ‘uncovered’ women in the room felt–especially the non-Muslims. My friend Jehanzeb writes about the experience here:

    http://muslimreverie.wordpress.com/2010/04/19/stop-telling-muslim-women-how-to-dress/

    The double standards have to stop. We need to evaluate teachings of the Quran and study them closely. In the Quran, there are certain things that expire after a while, Hine: Slavery.

    We need to do what’s best for us. I believe God has commanded both men and women to dress modestly. I think the teachings of safe guarding your privates, indicates that efforts should be made by BOTH GENDERS.

  11. ‘When I talk about women not wearing the hijab, I mean the average Western woman who leaves the house in decent clothing, sometimes even shorts and a sleeveless t-shirt, same as men do, but with no intention at all of wreaking havoc in men’s hearts’

    in western societies, it’s totally “hallal” to have sex before mariage, and many parents don’t oppose their children do do it and even if they do oppose it, it happens anyway, so there sex life can start very early, like 12 or 13 yrs (holland, UK, France) i’m mentionning those specific countries because i’m european i lived those 3 countries. As soon as the weather is nice, most of girls/ women, show their legs and arms and often more (cleavage, etc…) so for men it’s a normal sight, and if they have urges (as well as the woman) then it’s very easy to satisfy it, just have a boy/girl friend and have sex, or have one night stands (sex for one night with a total stranger) which is also very comon, etc….it’s quite rare to find someone who still hasn’t had sex by the age of 20 (they would be labelled as not ‘normal’)

    Islam doesn’t allow sex before mariage, commands chastity, and it is all writen in Allah’s book the holy Quran, now if you believe in Allah, then you obey him, and His book is very clear and what not so clear is reported in hadiths and different tafseers of the Quran, then if you question something of your belief, it’s totally normal, and you will find the answers, but then if one is not satisfied with what one found is that he/she is not satified with Allah’s order. He (swt) has created us and knows what’s best for us, even if we find it strange we have to accept it from our Creator, the Wise the all Knowing.

  12. I will start from where you ended Organica, both genders must do efforts to safeguard their private parts. No one can deny this.

    Evaluating teachings of the Quran? hmmm, the one who evaluates something must be competent to the source of the evaluated matter. Are you competent to Allah? The example you used which is slavery is what we call in fiqh “qiyas ma3 alfareq” (a measure with a difference), slavery was a system discouraged by Quran, while being modest and wearing properly is encouraged by Quran, to compare something to slavery it must be discouraged by Quran as well.

    Now, for men who wear shorts, show their boxers or their six-packs or whatever examples you said, all of this is not allowed in Islam, all of that doesn’t cover the awra of the man. Double standards are not teachings of Islam then, but more likely are teachings of customs that Islam is innocent from. Moreover, if a man got something in his bodies that causes fitna to ladies then yes he must cover it. It is reported that Umar Ibnul Khattab cut off the hair of a handsome man when he heard a woman saying she wishes to stay a night with him, so if the biceps of a man really attracts the majority of women then he must not show it :)

    I said earlier it is proved scientifically that men are more affected than women by their bodies and the way they dress. please check this to make sure: http://www3.interscience.wiley.com/journal/119469502/abstract?CRETRY=1&SRETRY=0

    this study states: “that men would attribute more sexuality to both male and female targets than women would. Furthermore, we predicted that the difference between men’s and women’s sexuality ratings would be most divergent when a male-female dyad was presented and when the female stimulus person wore revealing clothing. A laboratory study was conducted in which subjects viewed a photograph of two students in a classroom. As predicted, male subjects rated female targets as more sexy and seductive than did female subjects. Also as predicted, female targets who wore revealing clothing were rated as more sexy and seductive than those wearing nonrevealing clothing. Female targets were rated higher on sexual traits regardless of the gender of their partner. Men did not consistently perceive male stimulus persons more sexually than women did. Finally, both female and male targets were perceived as more kind and warm when they wore nonrevealing clothing. The implications of these findings for person perception and date rape research are described.”

    there are LOTS AND LOTS of studies ended with the same result.

    I wish you the best :)

  13. I don’t know, Nadia.

    The arguments you’ve talked about makes me feel more that any teaching of Islam might have a hidden cause or just a way that God knows who obeys Him.

    Because if we justify Hijab, how can we justify Prayers? Fasting? Or Hajj?

    You’ll always find something that to us has no meaning.

    This is not to say we shouldn’t use our brains, but to always feel we don’t have the avbility to justify everything.

  14. Im a hijaabi and quite often, a grudging one at that. No one forced me into hijaab, I did it when I was living alone in university, and now it’s become an extension of me. But still, I feel hypocritical because i am also the same person who listens to music, reads the silliest things, has an erratic temper……I’m just a person. Not perfect. And the hijaab- is something I wear now, sometimes longing to drag off, but never reaching that point because I’ve gotten so used to it as a burden, that i wouldn’t recognise myself without it. I get that you have to question. We all do. But… there are people who question to find the truth, and people who question to find their voice. Two wholly different things.
    There is the Quraan and the hadeeth- and a religion that has been declared perfect. So…now, this isn’t a case of idol-worshipping forefathers and just following blindly. We have beacons.
    I don’t know anymore. Stalemate. BUT.
    I think of the morning after the Me’raj, when everyone disbelieved Rasoolallah(SAW) and H. Abu Bakr (RA) spoke so- faithfully. with so much conviction. He believed without questioning because it was Rasoolallah(SAW). He never said- ok, first explain to me how this is possible, and then, i’ll give you my take.
    Never. And that is why he is As-sideeq. Not just for being trustworthy and truthful- but because he GAVE it, wholeheartedly.
    So when I’m wavering and angry and confused- i think of someone believing something so impossible, without an atom of doubt, not even a flicket of hesitation- and he did it because he was Muslim. Because it was Rasoolallah(SAW).

    So this is Islam. No one said it would be easy. And the thing about saying no to temptation- to dressing up and making yourself pretty and preening in all your feminine glory and showing it off…validating yourself- is it’s so damn hard to Not want it. Expecially when others are doing it and getting along just fine.Better than fine. Quite often, theyre liked more, respected more…everything more.That’s the thing about temptation. It makes the fight so painful.

    BUT. I think it should count more when you give something up and you hate every second of that giving. Because that’s true jihaad. You dont like it, sometimes you dont understand it…but you do it. And you have faith in that verse of Ar-Rahmaan that says that no one will do good without ever receiving good.

    May all our questions only lead to Allah, ameen.
    And inshallah, may we be modest not only in our dressing, but in our thinking as well, ameen.

    I hope I havent offended anyone here. Or come off as some self-righteous prig:P as i said….stalemate. i know where you are, and im currently sitting there myself. i think sometimes, we just need to say the good…so we remember it ourselves.

    slms.

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